You came out young and were completely OK with it, but now you have feelings for someone of the opposite sex. What does this mean?

If you believe your attraction to this person goes beyond the boundaries of your sexuality, why not take the opportunity to ask yourself what these boundaries actually mean, and how they came to be imposed.

Gay or straight, it's just a category. A means of labelling yourself to conform to the way our society defines sex, gender and relationships. The trouble is our feelings and desires don't always sit so easily in this way, which can lead to a great deal of grief and confusion. Forget about the labels for a moment.

You're attracted to an individual, and the important thing is that you feel able to come to terms with these emotions. Try to have a heart to heart with the person in question, this will go some way to finding a positive outcome to this situation. Not just in terms of your feelings for him/her, but the bigger picture, too.

You've always considered yourself straight but you've recently been having feelings for people of the same sex...are you gay?

Your attraction to other guys/girls can mean as much or as little as you want. What's important is that you find a comfortable way to make sense of these feelings.

The fact is everyone comes to terms with their sexuality in different ways. Some people are sure they're gay from a very early age, while others go through periods of uncertainty or confuse same sex admiration for sexual attraction. So don't fret about labelling yourself just yet. Ultimately, all that matters is that you're true to yourself.

Updated: 14/03/2012