Penis predicament
Question
I'm a healthy 16-year old who has no problems getting an erection when receiving oral sex or during masturbation, but when it comes to sex I can't get it up. Just the mention of it and it goes down. Is this all in my mind and how can I stop it happening?
Answer
You've taken a positive step in seeking help. Most men will have problems with erections at some time. Tiredness and alcohol, or simply not feeling like sex, are the common causes of erection problems.
Persistent inability to get or keep an erection that is sufficient to have sex, or another chosen sexual activity, is a common problem that affects at least one in every ten men. Psychological causes such as stress, anxiety and fear of failure can be common factors. Sometimes there are underlying physical causes that may need treatment.
You can find out more about male sexual difficulties by contacting the Sexual Dysfunction Association (SDA) Helpline on 0870 774 3571.
Men, just like women, can experience sexual problems. Talking and sharing your concerns with your partner is important. Communication can be an important part of solving difficulties.
It may be useful to visit your local Brook Centre and have a chat with a counsellor or see a doctor there. Under 25s can talk to someone at Brook in confidence about anything to do with sex and relationships.
Some doctors (GPs) offer clinics for sexual problems or will refer on to specialists. You can also search for services near you that may be able to help.
Finally, if you want to discuss your situation over the phone, you can call the Brook Freephone Helpline on 0800 0185 023.
Updated: 08/05/2006
Question answered by YouthNet in association with Brook
