Oral instructions
Question
I'd really like to be able to give my boyfriend head but I'm so nervous I'm not sure I can. Basically, I'm nervous because I'm not totally convinced I know what to do. I've heard how to do it from friends and read a bit about it but what am I really supposed to do?
Answer
Unfortunately there isn't a definitive answer to your question. Because everyone is different there isn't a specific way or 'right way' of giving head (oral sex).
Different men and woman do get pleasure from different ways of performing oral sex but usually involves another person using their mouth and tongue to kiss, lick or suck their partner's genitals. Both men and woman may become sexually aroused and have orgasms in this way.
You may find it useful to discuss with your boyfriend what you would like as well as what he would like. This way you can experiment and see what feels good for both of you. Communication is an important part of getting pleasure when engaging in any sexual activity.
Please remember it's possible to pass on some sexually transmitted infections (STIs) through oral sex. To reduce the risk of infection, a condom can be used for oral sex. Dental dams (small squares of latex) can also be used as a barrier during contact between the mouth and the vagina, or the mouth and the anus.
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