Muchos moistness
Question
I'm a bit worried about how wet I get when I have sex. Basically, I get so wet I can't feel my boyfriend inside me. It means sex is just not very enjoyable and it's affecting both of us. Is there something wrong with me? Is my vagina too big or loose for my boyfriend? Is there anything I can do to make it better for both of us?
Answer
It's difficult to say what's causing this, especially as it's impossible to diagnose anything over the internet.
Some women do feel as though their vagina must be opening too much or is loose. But, unless you've had children, this is actually very unlikely because, thanks to the flexible accordion-style folds of skin in its walls, any woman's vagina can accommodate any size penis, no matter how small or large it maybe. Only childbirth can affect the muscles supporting the vagina, and this is less common after a short labour.
Becoming wet during sex is perfectly normal for women, but the level of lubrication does vary from woman to woman. If your body did not naturally lubricate sex would be painful.
If you and your boyfriend are finding you can't feel each other you could try different things during sex. Sometimes, trying different positions works best. Alternatively you could go along to your local youth clinic and discuss the situation with a nurse or counsellor and even get a vaginal examination to reassure yourself about your concerns.
Updated: 01/12/2004
Question answered by YouthNet in association with Brook
