Evil ejaculation
Question
I was giving my boyfriend a hand job the other evening and as he was about to come he asked me where he should 'go'. I was a bit confused at the time and in the heat of the moment just said 'anywhere'. This was a bit of a mistake because the next thing I knew, there was come all over my shirt and neck, definitely not what I was expecting and certainly not appreciated. I don't want to get angry about it or embarrass him so if this happens again what should I tell him to do?
Answer
With anything sexual, it's important to only take part in something you're completely happy with. If you are happy to masturbate your boyfriend but do not want him to ejaculate on you, it is important to tell him so he's aware of what the problem is.
Communication is an important part of getting pleasure when engaging in any sexual activity. Before you find yourself in that situation again, you may want to tactfully mention you did not find the experience of him ejaculating on you pleasurable. You could ask him to direct his penis away from you when he ejaculates or he could warn you when he is about to ejaculate so you can stop and get out of the way, or you could suggest having some tissues at the ready to prevent his ejaculate going on you.
There's a risk of pregnancy if sperm comes into contact with the vagina in any way including from sperm on fingers. It's important to remember the penis leaks a few drops of semen (liquid containing sperm) as soon as it is hard.
If you are thinking about having sex with your boyfriend and need advice on different types of contraception, you can go along to your local doctor (GP), any other GP (once you have registered there for 'contraceptive services only'), your local Brook Centre (for under 25s) or a local family planning clinic. Advice is given in confidence and contraception will be free.
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