Confused about condoms
Question
My girlfriend and I have just started having sex and although we use condoms, I'm still really scared of getting her pregnant. After having sex the other day, I went to lick her out and there was this white stuff just below her vagina. I wasn't sure if it was cum or lube from the condom.
She's not on the pill because she said it makes her fat, but I'd feel much better if she was. Would it be OK to ask her to go on the pill, or is it safe enough to just use condoms?
Answer
To reassure you, condoms are 98% effective in preventing pregnancy if they are used properly, which means if they don't split or slip off. However, some people feel happier using two methods of contraception as they feel it gives them extra reassurance and protection. You can't make your girlfriend take the pill if she doesn't want to, but it is important that you explain your worries to her and explain why it would make you feel more comfortable. Communication is an important part of solving difficulties in relationships.
From what you've described, it sounds like the white stuff was vaginal fluid. During sexual arousal the vagina releases sexual fluids and becomes wet, as this makes sex more pleasurable and comfortable. This sexual fluid can range from being clear and watery to being white and thick, and is completely normal and natural.
It might be helpful for you and your girlfriend to speak to someone about the pill and other methods of contraception, so that your girlfriend has all the facts she needs. All methods have advantages and disadvantages and not all methods of contraception are suitable for everyone.
If you're thinking of having sex and need advice on different types of contraception, you can go along to your GP (doctor), local Brook Centre or family planning clinic. Advice is given in confidence and contraception will be free. If you want to discuss your situation, you can call Brook's free helpline on 0800 0185 023.
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