Stressed sister
Question
My sister has just moved away to a new town. We've always been close and she's worried about making friends. Is there anything I can do to stop her worrying?
Answer
Moving to a new environment and making new friends can seem traumatic to begin with. It's often worth just trying to get to know a few people at first, rather than hoping to be best of friends with everyone overnight.
Your sister could try focusing on getting to know one or two people she encounters in her daily life, whether she's at work or at home, and just build from there. It may be a colleague or a neighbour, but if they connect then she'll soon meet other people through them and slowly her social circle will grow. She might also want to consider joining social groups in her area; she'll find details at her local library or community centre.
Your concern is touching, and by all means let her know you're there if she wants to talk about how she's getting on at any time. Just be aware that this is her life, and it's down to her to lead it in any way that makes her happy. If she knows she has your support then you've done your very best as her sister.
Updated: 20/04/2006
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