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Question

About six months ago I went to a party with a bunch of people from sixth form, and I ended up having the most amazing night with this bloke in my year.

Since then though we've both been kind of ignoring each other although there has been a fair amount of suggestive eye contact.

As this keeps happening I've been thinking about him more and more. It's got to the stage where he's pretty much the only thing I think about. The thing is, I think I missed our moment, is there anyway it can work out for us?

Answer

From what you say it sounds as if by not talking to this lad about what happened, you've allowed your feelings for him to grow unchecked. It's become a crush, or a fantasy relationship. Even so, it's not too late to make it real.

Only he can say if he shares your affections, but you won't find out unless you make the effort to break the ice and talk to him. Approach him as a friend first, rather than potential boyfriend material, and just see how he responds. You'll soon suss if he feels the same way, and the more time you spend in his company, the easier it'll be to break down those barriers that have kept you apart for so long.

Just be sure to keep an open mind in case a romance doesn't interest him. If this does happen, at the very least you'll have made a friend.


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