Love triangle
Question
I've been in love with this guy for ages but he is unavailable. The thing is I recently found out his girlfriend is cheating on him. I'm pretty sure he knows I'm in love with him, so if I tell him about what's going on he probably won't believe me. I think he deserves to know, so what should I do?
Answer
Tempting as it may be to put him in the picture, it really is no way to guarantee he'll leave her for you. It more likely to just cause chaos in his love life, and risks dragging you in for all the wrong reasons.
Right now, he's in a relationship and you have to respect that. If you're unable to ignore the fact she's cheating on him then you could talk to her about it first and encourage her to see sense. You can't force her to make any changes, but it may be enough for her to act in his best interest whether that means calling it a day with her boyfriend or calling off her affair.
Either way, your best bet is to be a friend to him rather than a girlfriend in waiting. If they do break up (and it certainly doesn't sound like a healthy romance) then you can be there to help him through it. At the very least, it'll invite his respect, and then hopefully something more once he's over her.
Updated: 22/06/2005
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