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Question
My boyfriend started to ask me about my sexual fantasies but I honestly can't think of anything to tell him. Is there anyway I can make some up for him, something he'll like?
Answer
Sexual fantasies can be about whatever you like. The aim is to use your imagination as a sensual device, but it has to be something you want to do.
Right now, it's sounds like you're feeling under pressure to perform for your boyfriend by coming up with a sexual fantasy for him. But it's important to remember sharing fantasies is perfectly healthy, so long as you're happy and relaxed about being involved.
So instead of trying to read his mind, and tap into whatever it is that turns him on, why not ask him about it? Pick a moment when you're feeling close to him, and just bring the issue out into the open. Talk about what turns him on, and also be open about your own dreams and desires. All you're doing here is hoping to hit the spot, so he has every reason to help you out here, and even devise a fantasy that works for you both
With love, trust, respect (and even a sense of humour) you'll conjure up something that turns you both on. Just be sure that any fantasy doesn't overshadow the relationship, but strengthens what you already have.
Updated: 16/05/2005
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