Sick with fear
Question
I work with children but I hate the idea of anything to do with vomiting or sickness. I look after two children and recently the one of them was unwell for three days. Because I had bad asthma at the time, I took two of those days off. I normally would have gone in, but I couldn't face it if he was sick when I was on my own with him.
My fear of sickness is always in the back of my mind and I've even gone off food because I don't want to become ill. I go into a complete panic even if I feel just a little unwell. I need some help as this is starting to affect my life. I don't even drink anymore just in case I have too much and I'm sick. I'm in a good relationship with my boyfriend and we'd love to have children one day, but I don't think I could go through with the morning sickness and caring for a child who's unwell. I need help before this goes too far.
Answer
It sounds like you've developed some very uncomfortable feelings towards the thought of either yourself or someone else being sick. The way in which you say it's affecting your work and your personal life must be frustrating, especially since you and your boyfriend are looking forward to having a family together in the future. Feeling panicky even if you are feeling a little unwell sounds very distressing.
The reaction you describe to the thought of seeing sick or being sick may be a phobia, defined as having a strong, irrational fear of an object or situation. There are many types of phobias, including specific things such as insects, infections or flying. A fear of vomiting is known as Emetophobia.
The range of phobias people experience is extensive. Everyone is different and will react to things in various ways. Phobias are extremely common. Sometimes they start in childhood for no apparent reason; sometimes they emerge after a traumatic event; and sometimes they develop from an attempt to make sense of an unexpected and intense anxiety or panic. It may be helpful to think about when your fear of sick began in order to help you understand it.
It might be a relief to know you're not alone in experiencing this sort of fear. If you think it would be helpful, the National Phobic Society provide a space for people to share their thoughts and experiences via bulletin boards and chat rooms on their website. No More Panic also offers a similar service.
It is possible to overcome phobias, given the right support and treatment. Organisations, such as those listed above, provide useful tips and advice to help you help yourself. There is also a lot of professional support available, which your doctor (GP) will able to discuss with you. Typical treatment includes Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, which allow you to explore and, ultimately, understand your phobia further.
If you would like to discuss your fear with someone, you can contact Triumph Over Phobia on 0845 600 9601. Alternatively, you can call SANELINE, if you would like to speak to someone about how you feel in a confidential and non-judgemental environment.
Updated: 13/01/2009
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