Anorexia answers
Question
I'm anorexic and I have only told two of my friends. One of them thinks I should just eat. How can I get across that it's not that simple?
Answer
It is great you felt comfortable talking to some of your friends about your eating disorder. By continuing to speak to them about it, they will be able to gain a better understanding of your situation, enabling them to support you more effectively. Particularly your friend who thinks you should just eat.
Unhealthy relationships with food can begin when food is used to cope with difficult feelings, such as boredom, anxiety, anger, loneliness, shame or sadness. Some people use food to ease painful situations or feelings, or to relieve stress, perhaps without even realising it. When food begins to rule a person's life, whether in the form of compulsive or binge eating, or excessive dieting, a person's relationship with food can become dangerously unstable. This may develop into an eating disorder, such as anorexia nervosa, which you say you have.
The causes of any eating disorder vary tremendously according to the individual. There is a lot of pressure from the media and society to look a certain way, with an emphasis on 'thinness'. However, such distorted ideals are generally a far cry from reality. Unfortunately for some, dieting and exercise spiral into the development of anorexia.
Overcoming anorexia usually needs professional treatment through a clinic or therapist. Your local doctor (GP) will be able to explore the options available to you and refer you onto more specialist services.
For extra support and information, you might like to contact the Eating Disorders Association helpline on 0845 634 7650. They also have an extensive website full of information, advice and support networks, including a message board.
Updated: 07/06/2011
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