Looks vs personality

When it comes to the rules of attraction we all appreciate different things. So what's more important to you - looks or personality?

OK, so looks may be the first thing some people pick up on, but no matter how dazzling the display there has to be something deeper to make a meaningful relationship.

Regardless of your appearance, the most attractive thing you can offer others is the ability to relax and be yourself. If you're looking for more than just a friendship then think about the kind of signals you're giving out. It's basically about communicating your interests clearly.

You don't have to leap on the person you like and hope they will respond in kind. Just focus on conveying your desire to take things further. It may not get you instant results, but it will cut down on those missed opportunities.

My partner wants me to change my appearance

Instead of examining your body, why not check out the state of your relationship? Anyone who knocks your physical appearance doesn't have your interests at heart. It's demeaning and will only dent your self-esteem if you let it continue. If your partner carries on badgering you to make an upgrade then perhaps you should turn the tables and consider trading them in for a new and improved model.

And I'm no supermodel

Fact - there is no 'perfect' size, and it would be very boring if everyone squeezed into the same mould. We're all turned on by different shapes, but no matter how you look, ultimately it's your personality that matters most of all.

If you can relax about how others see you and learn to act natural, TheSite.org guarantees they'll start to pay more attention.

Over to you...

Justin: "I'd say looks are usually a starting point, after all most people get noticed on lustful grounds first... the it's probably down to personality (how you get on with the person, if you click and stuff)."

Calvin: "Besides sex, I find intelligence, a good sense of humour and a fair amount of cynicism and sarcasm incredibly attractive."

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