Pill pressure
Question
I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years and we've been having sex using condoms and the withdrawal method throughout our relationship. He thinks it's unreasonable that I havent gone on the pill yet. We dont need to protect ourselves from STIs as we we're both virgins.
The problem is, I really don't want to go on the pill. I'm scared that I'll get severe migraines again like I had during puberty. I have very regular periods as I'm worried about the pill disrupting my cycle. Also, I'm scared that it will make me put on any weight and increase the risk of getting breast cancer. My friend's mum even said she got a blood clot from being on the pill.
What other options of contraception do you suggest? Am I being unreasonable in not going on the pill for my boyfriend?
Answer
Firstly, it's important not to feel pressurised into using a method of contraception that you are not comfortable with. Also, be aware that the withdrawal method isn't an effective way to protect against pregnancy. This is because the penis leaks a few drops of semen (liquid containing sperm) as soon as it becomes erect. So, if the penis enters the vagina and the man doesn't even ejaculate, there is still a risk of pregnancy.
The contraceptive pill is one of the most common methods of contraception in the UK. It can sometimes cause temporary side-effects at first, including headaches, nausea, breast tenderness and mood changes. If these don't stop within a few months, switching to a different type of pill may help. It's worth remembering that serious side-effects of the pill are uncommon.
Research into the link between breast cancer and hormonal contraception is complex and contradictory. However, current research suggests that users of all hormonal contraception are marginally at greater risk of developing breast cancer compared to non-users of hormonal contraception. Also, research has not shown evidence of weight gain in women using the combined pill.
Using the pill will probably alter your menstrual cycle slightly, although it should remain regular. It is natural to worry about using a hormonal method of contraception. Try and talk to your partner about your concerns and worries. Getting as much information as possible will allow you to make an informed decision.
Not all methods of contraception are suitable for everyone. To find out more about which method might suit you best, you could speak to your doctor (GP) or a nurse. For further advice on different types of contraception, you can go along to your local Brook Centre or family planning clinic. Advice is given in confidence and contraception is free. You can also bring your partner along, too.
If you want to discuss your situation further, you can call the Brook Freephone Helpline on 0800 0185 023.
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