Too shy to snog
Question
I've been seeing my boyfriend for a few months now and although we can sit and chat together we still haven't properly snogged, just kissed a little. I love him and love spending time with him but how can I approach actually snogging him?
Answer
Don't be afraid of your shyness, it's only natural to feel self-aware when it comes to something like kissing. And chances are this is what's holding your boyfriend back as well. You've been together for a long time, after all, and so if this feels like a natural step then it's important you let him know.
There are two ways for you to approach this. Firstly, you could try speaking up at a good time. If you're not happy about taking a direct approach, it's worth turning the question away from a 'snog me!' to mentioning it might be fun to explore a different kind of kiss. This way, you're stating a wish without putting him under pressure. If he's keen, you'll soon know about it.
Alternatively, however, you might find it's easier to simply expand your current kissing technique. If you're limited to a lip nuzzle, try gently probing with your tongue and just see how he responds. Hopefully, you'll get the snog you want in no time, and if not then use the opportunity to talk about your feelings for each other.
Sometimes, it can take a toe-curling moment such as this to establish honesty in a relationship. It's something that takes a little courage, but whatever happens you're guaranteed to look back knowing you did the right thing.
Updated: 10/01/2005
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