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Question
I've only been dating my girlfriend for a few weeks but we've been really close for a long time. Before we went out she told me she likes girls and I know she's messed about with her close friend. She would tell me when they kissed and did other things, but now we're going out I don't want to hear about it anymore. I don't know if they are still doing anything together so what should I do? I don't know how to deal with this situation.
Answer
From what you've said, it sounds like you could be allowing some natural insecurities get in the way of the facts. That your girlfriend has admitted a same-sex relationship in the past just shows she feels she can confide in you. Only she can say what it means now she's in a relationship with you, and you won't find out unless you ask.
You should consider raising the issue with her. Just be sure not to leave her feeling uncomfortable. Instead, stress that it's on your mind because you rate your romance so highly, and just see how she responds. Hopefully, this is the opportunity you've been seeking for her to put your mind at ease.
No matter what's in her past, the important thing is how she feels about you now. After all, everyone is entitled to a sexual history. If a chat sparks just this kind of dialogue, then opening up can only benefit you both.
Updated: 20/04/2006
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