Parental disappointment
Question
My mum and dad have always favoured my older brother. Now he's left for university and I can't help feeling like I'm in their way. They keep saying I could do more with my life, but I'm trying my best at college, what can I do?
Answer
Comparing yourself to other family members often breeds resentment and insecurity, no matter how you rate yourself. You may feel like your parents have a special preference, but the fact is your welfare will be their number one priority, as is your brother's.
Chances are they'd be concerned to know you feel this way, and so you might want to talk it over with them. Not only will it give them an opportunity to put your mind at ease, it'll help to remind you all of the aspects of your life where you excel and which bring you a sense of fulfilment. It doesn't have to be an academic gift. It could be a sharp sense of humour, a desire to help others, or even your sensitivity to the world around.
Identifying your talents together can only help to shape your ambitions - and that's when you'll know your parents are right behind you. Even if you don't get that sense of support, you only have to believe in yourself to go far.
Updated: 22/06/2005
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