Inquisitive desire
Question
I've started to fancy some of the boys I hang out with as well as the girls. I'm still a virgin but I think I might be bisexual, is this normal and what do I do now?
Answer
Whether you fancy lads, girls or both, your sexual identity is just one aspect of who you are, like the colour of your eyes or your sense of humour, so please don't worry about labelling yourself.
The length of time it can take to come to terms with your sexuality can vary, for some people it's a simple decision and for others it can involve questioning everything; including the gender of those they are attracted to.
Being a virgin won't make any odds to your feelings and having sex isn't a quick way to resolve how you feel, so don't worry about rushing into anything. What matters more is finding a safe environment for you to make sense of your emotions and finding someone you can discuss this with without being judged or made to feel that you have to conform to a sexual stereotype.
If you feel unable to confide in anyone you know, but would like to talk to someone who can identify with your situation, contact the London Lesbian & Gay Switchboard on 020 7837 7324. You'll be able to talk anonymously and in confidence with a trained, sympathetic listener who can help you to understand how you are feeling.
You will make sense of your sexuality in time, so take that time to decide what feels right for you.
Updated: 12/04/2010
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