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Question
My boyfriend wants me to suck his penis but I'm not sure I know how to, or even if I want to for that matter.
Answer
You're talking about performing oral sex on your boyfriend, which is often known as a 'blow job', 'fellatio', or 'giving head'. It describes a sex act in which the man's erect penis is kissed, licked or sucked by his partner. Despite the name, however, it doesn't involve blowing, but really the best person who can tell you what's enjoyable is your boyfriend.
At the same, like any intimate act, it's not compulsory. It's just something some people choose to perform for their partners to bring them pleasure. You don't say why you don't want to do it, but if it's simply something you don't fancy that's fine. What's more, if your boyfriend has your best interests at heart he'll totally understand, and won't put pressure on you to change your mind.
If you're worried about technique, please don't feel afraid to talk to him about it. Sex of any kind thrives on good communication, trust, respect and consent. If anything here is missing from your relationship then you need to put your welfare before his willy. Ultimately, there's no point in giving someone pleasure if it simply stokes your anxiety. It's far better to be open and honest as a couple before you can hope to make it rewarding for you both physically.
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