Suicidal thoughts can be terrifying and feel very isolating. But feeling like you want to die is more common than most people think. The important thing to realise is that you’re not alone and that immediate help is available
I’m feeling suicidal, what can I do?
Talk to someone. Anyone. You may feel overwhelmed, beyond help, or even angry at everyone around you but you deserve support. Telling a family member or friend could help to calm you down. But if you don’t feel comfortable doing this, you can share your feelings in complete confidence with the Samaritans. They provide a 24 hour phone service where you can talk to a trusted professional on your own terms. Call them on 08457 909090 or email firstname.lastname@example.org if that feels a bit less daunting. Or contact the Samaritans directly through TheSite.org.
You could also consider contacting one of these organisations:
- Depression Alliance – charity offering information and self-help groups. Tel: 0845 123 2320
- Supportline – confidential and emotional support on the telephone. Tel: 01708 765200
- Sane – offers immediate emotional help by phone, email or an online support forum. Tel: 0845 767 8000
Talk to your GP
You probably feel like nobody can help you, but your doctor may be able to diagnose a temporary and treatable issue that’s causing your distress. For example, feelings of despair, sadness, low self-esteem or panic are indicators of conditions like anxiety and depression.These symptoms can be relieved by medication or talking therapy. Your GP can also point you in the direction of local self-help groups.
I feel really desperate, please help
If you really feel your thoughts have reached crisis level then going to the Accident and Emergency (A&E) department of your local hospital might be the safest option. There you can see a duty psychologist who will be able to assess your needs and help you find the necessary support.
Helping a friend
If someone you know tells you that they are thinking about harming themselves, take it seriously. Don’t laugh or tell them to shut up, stop acting stupid, or snap out of it. Let them talk about the problem, and try not to judge them. Be kind, stay calm and get them medical attention as soon as you can.
Sometimes, offering to go with them to a doctor’s appointment will help them pluck up the courage to do so. It might be a false alarm, but it’s better to be on the safe side.
If you’re not in a crisis right now, but would like to investigate longer-term sources of support, TheSite.org’s discussion boards can be a place of reassurance and advice. The discussion boards allow you to share your thoughts completely anonymously with others who’ve experienced similar issues and to explore ways other young people have coped with suicidal feelings. We also have a list of useful helpline numbers if you’d like to speak to someone on the phone.
- C.A.L.M (campaign against living miserably) is a charity dedicated to preventing male suicide. They have lots of information on their website and run a helpline from five to midnight. 0800 58 58 58
- SANE offer support and information to people affected by mental illness. 0845 767 8000
- Anyone can contact the Samaritans on their 24-hour helpline to talk things through. 08457 90 90 90
- Visit Madly in Love to discuss mental health and relationships, share stories and get support and advice.
- Chat about this subject on our Discussion Boards.
- Need help but confused where to go locally? Download our StepFinder iPhone app to find local support services quickly.
Updated on 25-Sep-2012