Suicide watch
Question
My friend has tried to kill herself a number of times but doesn't want to die, so why keep doing it? Can you suggest anything I can do to help her?
Answer
You are obviously very concerned for your friend. It sounds like she is going through a lot at the moment, so it's great that she trusts you enough to tell you how she's feeling.
Although she's attempted suicide, your friend says she doesn't want to die. More often than not, people who are suicidal don't actually want to die, they just want to put an end to the pain they are experiencing.
There are some things you can do to help your friend, but please don't feel that you have to deal with this on your own. Helping a friend who is suffering can be a strain, so try to make that you've got support too. Always keep in mind that your friend is ultimately responsible for her own actions.
One of the best things you can do for your friend is to be there to listen. Don't be judgmental - just be there for her. Befrienders International have further information on its website about helping a friend who is suicidal.
Your friend may find it useful to talk to a professional counsellor about the way she is feeling. She can get details of local youth information, advice and counselling services by contacting Youth Access on 020 8772 9900.
If your friend finds it difficult to talk to someone face-to-face she may feel better about talking via a helpline or email. Samaritans have a 24 hour helpline offering confidential emotional support. Their number is 08457 909090 and their email address is
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