Mother's ruin
Question
My Mum has been an alcoholic for the last 10 years, following her divorce. She's very secretive about her drinking and hides alcohol around her house so I can't find it. I'm worried because her drinking is on the increase and sometimes she has suicidal thoughts. Is there anything I can do? I don't want to watch my Mum destroy or potentially kill herself.
Answer
It sounds like this situation has been really distressing for you, but it may help to know that you are not alone in dealing with this type of problem. Nevertheless, it can be difficult for families to know how to help a loved one who has a problem with alcohol.
It's important you know that your mother has to want to make a change and other people can't make the decision for her. The best thing you can do for her is give her information about local alcohol treatment services and be there to support her when she is ready to take that step.
It would probably be helpful for you to get some support as well. You need to be able to talk about your situation and get information and support to help deal with it. There is an organisation you can contact, called Adfam, that provides this type of support to families dealing with alcoholism.
Once you've had a chance to work through your feelings you will find that you are stronger and better able to deal with the situations your mother gets into. Although it may be difficult, just letting your mother know that you will be there to support her when she decides to make a change can be a big help.
Updated: 13/04/2010
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